Hi, My name is Lorna and I set up Be Relaxed
I'm so pleased that you've discovered us!
Be Relaxed was set up to help schools, nurseries, children, adults and families with nurturing positive wellbeing, building resilience, self-esteem, awareness and confidence. The Be Relaxed programs leverage the latest research and science, with lots of fun to help develop lifelong habits for self-care and to thrive.
Throughout my younger years I pretty much always felt anxious to varying degrees. The levels of anxiety fluctuated depending on what was going on at the time. For example I always had chronic anxiety whenever my mum would go out for a night out with her friends and with a family of nine children (me being the youngest) to look after it wasn’t easy for her. I would plead with her to not go out and I felt totally lost.
My mum died very suddenly when I was 18 and this traumatic experience was very difficult for me to handle. I was young and with so much dumbed emotions built up over the years I really wasn't equipped to deal with such trauma; the mental, emotional and physical pain was unbearable.
My life story has taken me to some very dark places including being chronically anxious, bullied, deep grief, suffered severe IBS, hyperthyroidism and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Therapy, self enquiry and learning has allowed me to release years of numbed emotions. I wish my younger self knew all the things I know now. During my journey I've discovered the vital importance of really looking after yourself as no matter what people do or say they cant get into your head. The most important relationship you can ever have is the relationship you have with yourself, fully accepting, appreciating and embracing what you see in the mirror whole heartedly as a non negotiable. It’s the most important marriage there is.
I am so passionate about what I do as I want to help others especially children so they can learn from a young age how to keep themselves relaxed and resilient with skills for life.
During my journey, I very gratefully discovered meditation and yoga at the age of 16. I've been inspired and uplifted by the many retreats, talks I've attended and books I've read.
Self care, really looking after, acknowledging and nurturing yourself is of upmost importance. If you don't have self care as your foundation then no matter how many books you read or retreats you attend, what you get from them will soon fade. As with that self care comes prioritising your holistic wellbeing.
I've noticed more and more over the years that we seem to have prioritised doing over our state of being. We always seem to be on the go, doing, doing, doing as much as we can. This time more than ever we really benefit and need time to feel our most awesome states of being; being loved and loving, being peaceful, being joyful which uplifts us, heals, recharges, replenishes, keeps us in alignment and balanced.
To feel our magnificent selves we start with our own self identity (how we see and view ourselves and others) and with that comes the quality of our thoughts:
OUR THOUGHTS = OUR FEELINGS = OUR STATE OF BEING
Higher quality thoughts about ourselves and others leads to feelings associated with peace, love and happiness which uplifts, heals, recharges and generally increases our holistic wellbeing. Our state of being is then that of being in-alignment, balanced and stable, therefore your being is well - 'wellbeing' and you are relaxed.
Being relaxed is so important in life. Relaxation is a state of consciousness characterised by feelings of peace, ease of tension, anxiety and fear.
On my life journey I graduated when I was 25 and worked at one of the top leading IT companies in the world, Microsoft for 18 years. I have trained and qualified as a massage therapist, a yoga teacher, and a Relax Kids coach. I am also endorsed by the Reach Approach: https://www.thereachapproach.co.uk/2019/03/10/lorna-crossan-be-relaxed/ and on the board of advisors for the mental health initiative, 'Brighter Berkshire'.
Ive always used fun practices with my own two children since they have been 2 years old to support their wellbeing, developing self confidence, self leadership and self esteem. Through my own first hand personal experience I've developed a deep appreciation of the importance of living from the inside out, I have created a diagram below to illustrate:
My aim is to provide practices and skills for life for effective self care, relaxation, mindfulness and stress management in a very fun, imaginative, mindful way. These practices support your holistic wellbeing; physically and mentally.
Improving health, self esteem and emotional resilience to feel happier, positive and empowered and lead an enriching life.
You are Relaxed
I am Relaxed
We are Relaxed